![]() ![]() The only caveat that I think is worth mentioning here is children. If you think you’d rather have your loved one’s support through it, then let them know earlier. If you think that you’ll do better without other people knowing in the event something happens, that’s perfectly okay. So that means that the question really comes down to what will make you feel the most comfortable in the event that something happens, NOT what you think will make everyone else the most comfortable. I felt like it should be our burden and that by sharing our news we were potentially sharing our pain.īut here’s the thing that I’ve learned after two losses: no matter whether you tell people about your baby or not, the pain is going to be the same for you, and your loved ones should want to support you through that. I personally don’t think that a couple should have to keep their pregnancy a secret until the second trimester UNLESS they want to do that for themselves.ĭuring my last pregnancy, I felt so much guilt after telling our loved ones (and the GG community) about our pregnancy because I worried about dragging other people through the possible pain of a miscarriage. (You can read more about the statistics here.) The general thought behind this is that your chances of miscarriage go down in the second trimester. Many couples choose to wait until the second trimester to announce their pregnancies. When will you feel the most comfortable sharing your pregnancy news? ![]() Since this pregnancy was rocky from the get-go, we never felt like completely announcing it on our personal social media.ģ. Our family shared in our disbelief that it had happened again. My step-daughter being the incredible girl that she is, simply hugged me and told me she was so sorry. Once again, we had to tell our loved ones that there wouldn’t be a baby. She’s 10 and we thought she could make the decision for herself on whether she’d want us to tell her the next time we got pregnant, or keep it a secret until we got a little further along. During the period after our first miscarriage, we spent a lot of time talking to her about everything and asked her what she would prefer us to do in the future. (Again, my GG community knew almost immediately on Instagram!)Īnd we told my step-daughter. We still chose to tell our family and close friends, but we opted not to share our news on our personal social media. This time, we were cautious to tell those around us that we were even pregnant. When we decided to immediately try again, we were surprised to find out that we had conceived in April 2019. Since we had already announced the pregnancy to the world at large, we then had to think of a way to tell everyone what had happened. (I had already announced our pregnancy with my amazing Growing Graci community on Instagram.)Īt our 9 week appointment, we found out that our baby no longer had a heartbeat, and I had to have a D&C the next day. At this point, we didn’t fear a potential miscarriage causing my step-daughter pain, because we thought everything was likely to go smoothly.Īfter our first doctor appointment where we received ultrasound photos, we announced the pregnancy on our personal social media. When my now husband and I found out we were expecting again in December of 2018, we immediately my step-daughter and then proceeded to tell our family. My daughter was born healthy the next June and I never really gave much thought to whether it had been a good or bad decision to be so open about the pregnancy. Our pregnancy announcement for social media for our daughter Graci in December of 2016! Once we crossed over the threshold of the first trimester, we announced it on social media and on Christmas morning we told my step-daughter. We didn’t want to have her go through the potential rollercoaster of miscarriage since she was only 8. The only person that we kept the pregnancy a secret from was from my step-daughter. I’m not sure that we had put a lot of thought into this decision - I think that we were mostly so overwhelmed with emotions (excitement and fear), that we wanted to tell someone!Īfter telling our immediate family, we didn’t really keep the pregnancy a secret. My boyfriend and I decided that we were going to tell loved ones the same night that we got our positive pregnancy test. Back in October of 2016, I found out that I was pregnant with my daughter, Graci. ![]()
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